ADHD doctorLike, Respect, and Trust Your Doctors

Many adults with ADHD largely ignore one very important factor in self-care: choosing good health care providers.

Whether you’re looking for a dentist or a general practitioner, it’s tough to find good doctors today. Very few actually take the time to get to know you and develop a personal relationship with you. And (in the United States, at least) when you find a good one who does go out of their way to provide you with top-notch care, they usually don’t take your insurance!

The bottom line is that if you walk out of your doctor’s office grumbling about what a jerk s/he is, then it is not okay to continue seeing that provider.

When you choose a doctor, you put your health in their hands. You trust them to determine if there are any problems that need to be addressed, and to help you take preventative measures for illnesses and diseases that you may be at risk for. Never trust your care to someone who doesn’t answer your questions or take your concerns seriously.

While this makes sense on paper, it becomes a problem for many adults with ADHD because finding good doctors requires a lot of time and effort. It’s often easier to go to the doctor who is close by, or the doctor who takes your insurance, because you just don’t feel like going through the process of looking for a new one. However, finding good doctors is an investment in yourself and your health.

  1. The first and easiest thing you can do to find a good doctor is to ask around. Ask your friends, family, and neighbors who they recommend. This cuts down on a lot of research time, and if a doctor gets along well with someone whom you get along well with, then chances are you may be a good fit!
  2. You can also check your health insurance provider’s directory. If you find someone that looks good, try Googling their name. See what you can find out about that doctor online. Do they have a website or an online profile? Perhaps they have published a paper or appeared in an article. Or, if you’re really lucky, you may come across a patient rating of the doctor! These are all great ways to get a sense of the doctor and their personality before you commit to a visit.
  3. Lastly, try, try again. If you visit a doctor that you don’t gel with, don’t be afraid to stop seeing them, and see someone else, instead. Mavericks identify what they want and then go for it. A little extra effort isn’t enough to stop us. Sure, all of these strategies can be time consuming and frustrating, but isn’t your health worth it?

And by the way, everything said above applies to therapists, counselors, and coaches, too!


We’ll be touching on this subject, and so much more, at the AD/HD Medication Matters Summit next month. The Summit is a live, online event that is designed to help you cut through the confusion and get the facts about AD/HD and medication. We ran it last year and, by overwhelmingly popular demand, we’re presenting it again this year!

Prominent neuropsychiatrist Theresa Cerulli, MD will be joining me in this online summit to teach you everything you need to know about AD/HD and medications. Over the course of 2 evenings, you’ll:

  1. Gain an overview of AD/HD and the brain
  2. Learn how medications work in the brain
  3. Receive a comprehensive review of the medications that are available to treat AD/HD
  4. Grasp the difference between stimulant and nonstimulant, brand name and generic, and long and short acting medications
  5. Recognize which symptoms and challenges can and can’t be helped by AD/HD medications
  6. Discover how to tell when you’ve got the right medication at the right dose
  7. Uncover the common side effects of medications, and learn what you can do to avoid them
  8. Assess the medications used to treat common coexisting conditions, like depression and anxiety
  9. Find out if certain medications are better for women vs. men, kids vs. adults, and the inattentive vs. the hyperactive
  10. Understand when it’s NOT safe to take AD/HD medications
  11. Evaluate some complimentary treatments that you can use in conjunction with, or as an alternative to, medications
  12. Determine what to do if you disagree with your doctor’s treatment plan
  13. Get your questions answered by a neuropsychiatrist who is an expert on AD/HD when you attend the live webinars

The AD/HD Medication Matters Summit takes place online and in the comfort of your own home or office. Join us on May 15 & 16 (Tuesday and Wednesday) from 7-9pm EDT. Don’t worry if you can’t attend live, because the presentation will be recorded and the audios, as well as the slides, are yours to keep.

Visit the AD/HD Medication Matters Summit website to register or learn more. And don’t delay, because you can save $50 on the registration fee with the Early Bird Discount!


Jennifer Koretsky About Jennifer Koretsky

Jennifer Koretsky, SCAC is the Managing Partner of the ADD Management Group, LLC and Chief Executive Officer of She is a Senior Certified ADHD Coach, and the author of Odd One Out: The Maverick's Guide to Adult ADD.


  1. These are great points Jen. Too often I see people putting up with doctors who are not a fit for them and/or medications that don’t work. Finding a great doctor for YOU is so key in successful management of ADHD! Thanks for sharing and for hosting the summit!

  2. Oh how timely this is for me! I used to simply put up with doctors due to the fact that they were on my insurance. In fact, I just tried a new primary care doctor that I will not see again because she was a little rude when she didn’t understand a question I asked. I know it was probably my ADHD at work the day I went, but the rudeness was SO unnecessary.

    • I’m Going through the exact same thing. The doctor I’m seeing right now had the nerve to say to me “I’m starting to annoy him.” :-/ Are you F@#$ing kidding me? How can a psychiatrist possibly be this ignorant? I felt absolutely helpless when I walked out of the building. As an ADHD I’ve heard this from a lot of people but to hear it from a psychiatrist is the most depressing thing in the world. Why can’t psychologist prescribe adhd meds?!!

  3. I’m experiencing this process now. The names on the insurance carriers list are not taking new clients. The people found from friend network, are asking more money than I can afford. The people who are available may or may not specialize in ADD/ADHD. Very frustrating indeed. As always, I’ll keep trying to find someone who can help me.

  4. Hi I am looking for a doctor who can help my son who is 24 and has ADHD . Our doctor will not perscibe the madaction , we are in Stoke -on-Trent .