Every year around this time, I hear from a number of adults with ADHD who are stressing out and not enjoying the last weeks of summer. They’re frustrated and annoyed with themselves because summer is almost over and they haven’t finished many of the projects that they had hoped to complete. In some cases, they haven’t even gotten started!
Are you one of these adults with ADHD? Are you beating yourself up because you haven’t accomplished enough this summer?
If so, here’s a quick guide to finishing up your summer projects (and letting go of the guilt)!
Pick one or two projects that are really important to you. Everything else can wait.
This step is essential. If you pick too many projects to work on at once, you greatly increase your chances of procrastinating on all of them, and finishing none of them.
You may want to make your choices based on what’s seasonally appropriate, like keeping your garden or yard well maintained. You can also choose based on things that really need to get done, like home repairs. Or, best of all, you can choose based on what you actually like to do, or are looking forward to doing.
Plan to work on your projects and schedule the time into your day or week.
Don’t overdo it. If you try to spend every free moment completing your summer projects, then they’ll quickly become tedious and boring, and your last few weeks of summer will slip away.
Instead, try scheduling in an hour a day for a couple of days, or maybe even a full day on the weekend. Remember to leave room in your schedule for some summer fun! Completing projects can be extremely satisfying, but life shouldn’t be all about your to-do list.
Let go of unrealistic expectations.
It’s quite common for adults with ADHD to beat themselves up because they didn’t live up to their own unrealistic expectations. But we’re all human, and it’s perfectly normal to worry that you didn’t accomplish as much as you wanted to over the summer. It doesn’t mean that you’re a bad person, or that there’s something wrong with you.
If you don’t believe me, ask a friend without ADHD if they feel like they made the most of their summer and accomplished all the things they hoped to. You’ll be hard-pressed to find someone who can actually say that they did!
Which summer projects will you be wrapping up in the next few weeks? I’ll be happy to e-coach anyone who needs it! Just post in the comments and tell me about your projects, your unrealistic expectations, etc., and then check back in a day or two for my response.