Kate KellyLast week the ADHD community lost a leader, a friend, and a fellow member of the tribe when Kate Kelly,  co-author of the groundbreaking book You Mean I’m Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?!: The Classic Self-Help Book for Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder, died of cancer.

In recent years I got to know Kate when she joined us as a speaker at the Virtual AD/HD Conference. The word that instantly comes to mind to describe Kate is kind. She was a kind person; a kind soul. She accepted every person for who they were–strengths, weaknesses, successes, and challenges. I always appreciated that about Kate.

If you’ve never read You Mean I’m Not Lazy, Stupid, or Crazy?!, then I advise you to pick up a copy. Even though it was first published nearly 20 years ago, it is still absolutely relevant to every adult with ADHD and it will help you better understand yourself and your ADHD.

And whether or not you’ve read the book, I think you’ll definitely enjoy hearing this presentation on “AD/HD in the Spirit” that Kate gave at the very first Virtual AD/HD Conference in 2008 (moderated by Terry Matlen). She opened up the conference, and she was one of the favorites that year! There’s some sage advice here, and you’re welcome to download this audio and play it over and over again.

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Loss is always hard, but I’m comforted by the fact that Kate Kelly will be remembered and honored in our ADHD Community.

Please feel free to post in the comments and share your memories, thoughts, and feelings about Kate and her pioneering work in adult ADHD.


Jennifer Koretsky About Jennifer Koretsky

Jennifer Koretsky, SCAC is the Managing Partner of the ADD Management Group, LLC and Chief Executive Officer of ADHDmanagement.com. She is a Senior Certified ADHD Coach, and the author of Odd One Out: The Maverick's Guide to Adult ADD.


  1. I’m not able to download the MP3 file. It is not active anymore.

  2. Wow! This woman changed how I managed my family, my work and personal relationships with myself and my kids! I’ve passed on several suggestions to friends and family to buy/borrow or steal this book! In addition to Driven to Distraction/Hallowell, et al (sp?) this is my ADD(H) Bible, Cookbook, Manual and Life Guide. I hope Kate’s family will know what a fabulous legacy she is leaving all of us, our children and friends. Thank you Kate Kelly, especially for the Slow Me Down Spirit/Lord poem/prayer! Thank you Jennifer!

    • Jennifer Koretsky Jennifer Koretsky says:

      That’s so nice to hear, Lou! I think Kate changed many lives for the better. I’m glad you enjoyed the poem!

  3. Thank you so much for sharing this with us, Jennifer. It’s always hard when a good person leaves us, but at least we can still enjoy what she gave us while she was here. Thank you, Kate, and thank you, Jennifer!

  4. Jessica Gallaher says:

    A very sad farewell!

    Thank you so much for sharing this… She helped change my life with her part in I’m not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy. I was diagnosed at 37 March 2011, with Inattentive Adult ADHD with GAD, as well as possible bipolar and then re-diagnosed in March 2012 by a different doctor with Adult ADHD both Hyper and inattentive with GAD and a Mood disorder. I told both doctors I read I’m not lazy crazy or stupid and cried crocodile tears as that it was all me…

    I book is referred to by a few of my ADHD friends (I don’t think I have any that are not.) as the ADHD bible. I have suggested it to many people. It’s changed their lives too. I am doing my first speech for my public speaking class on adult adhd and will certainly have the book cover on my power point presentation as well in my hand. I’m just hoping I can make it through the speech with out tears. I have to sum up ADHD in 6 minutes. Wish me luck and many thanks to Kate and Peggy as well as Dr Hallowell and Dr. Ratey.

  5. First of all, thank you, Jennifer, for the excellent webinar you presented through ADDA tonight on “Overcoming Overwhelm.” One of the best I have listened to. Thank you for sharing the details of your personal experience in the way that you did, for that really helped to solidify and heal some things for me.

    Secondly, thank you for posting this news about Kate. She was my very first coach and helped me get through getting diagnosed with ADD and begin building my business. A very loving, generous soul for whom I am very grateful and sad to learn of her death.

    • Jennifer Koretsky Jennifer Koretsky says:

      Christine, thank you so much for your kind words! I’m so glad you enjoyed the webinar that I presented and that the material resonated with you. Your comment made my day! :)

      And I’m sorry for your loss regarding Kate. We’ll all miss her.

  6. Now I’ll never get to share the inherent comedy of her book with her.
    You know, writting a book targeted to people who can barely finish a newspaper clip.
    Hell, I didn’t even read this article in full. Sorry ;/

  7. Joseph Correia says:

    I have recently been diagnosed with ADHD. At the age of 51 I couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me. I knew I had the potential to do so much more in life, but couldn’t seem to do what I thought I was capable of doing. I always felt different, not being able to stay in a relationship, spacing out when people would talk to me. I had bouts of outbursts after telling myself I would never do that again. For the first time in my life I see a light at the end of the tunnel. I have started my own business and am starting my new journey. I bought Kate’s book and just the introduction alone gave me hope. I wanted to send Kate an email to thank her, only to find out she had passed. To me, Kate and Peggy gave me the hope I needed to move forward. For the first time in my life, I know I am not alone and I know I do have unique strengths which will help me excel. God bless you Kate. You have done your job in your life. Without your vision I am not sure where I would be today. May you rest in peace!


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